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When Dementia Turns a Loving Moment Into an Angry One
Agitation and anger are often a message, not a rejection. Amber shares what may be behind the behavior, how to respond in the moment, and Marilyn's story.
Read From AmberThe Caregiver Behind the Care
After 16 years in assisted living, memory care, and skilled nursing, one truth keeps standing out: finding and keeping genuinely good caregivers is hard. And while you spend your days caring for everyone else — who is caring for you?
Read From AmberWhen They Refuse a Shower, They May Be Asking for Safety
What looks like refusing a shower isn't always about the shower. Sometimes it's fear, vulnerability, or loss of control — and sometimes the answer is as simple as Elvis.
ReadTake a breath.
However you got here, whatever kind of day you're having — I'm glad you stopped by. Read gently. Take what helps. Leave the rest.
— Amber